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How to Deal with Stress
Our beliefs and thoughts create our emotions and behaviours, by changing the way we process the situation that appears we change our feelings, and therefore our behaviours and responses.
NLP, Hypnotherapy and CBT has been proven to deal with this quickly and in comfort.
Changes more often than not, happen in only one session.
What is stress?
It is always important to define and clarify what stress is, and is not before I offer solutions. Stress is how we react when we feel threatened or pressured, and in situations that we feel we cannot manage or control.
When we experience stress, it can be as:
- Individually, for example, when you have lots of responsibilities that you find you are struggling to handle
- Part of a group or family, bereavement or financial problems are common causes of stress related issues
- Part of your wider community, religious, or other groups, that experience discrimination and or segregation
- A member of a society that for whatever reason has to deal with a major issue, covid-19 was such an event.
When feeling stressed in a group, remember that we may all experience stress differently, even if the cause of the stress is the same.
When does stress become a problem?
Sometimes, a small amount of stress can help us, by highlighting that something needs our attention, to complete tasks and feel more energised. Stress becomes a problem when it lasts for a long time or is very intense.
Stress can affect our physical and mental health if not dealt with.
Medical Professionals sometime refer to stress as 'acute' or 'chronic':
- Acute stress happens within a few minutes to a few hours of an event. Although it is intense, Acute stress subsides after a while.
- Chronic stress continues for a long period of time, it can return and cause problems. If you are under pressure a lot of the time, if your day-to-day expereince is difficult, you can suffer from chronic stress.
Stress if undealt with can cause the following
- Stress can build into mental health problems. It may develop into anxiety or depression, a long perios of stress might lead to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
- Mental health problems can cause stress. If you already have mental health issues, stress can make coping even more difficult.
- Some people turn to drugs or alcohol to cope with stress. This could also affect your mental health, and cause further stress, it can be a repetative cycle.
Stress affects the way we feel, our emotions, our body and behaviour, in lots of ways. It is important to recognise when we are becoming stressed, and take appropriate action.
How stress can make you feel
- Irritable, angry, impatient or 'wound up'
- Overwhelmed, over loaded
- Anxious, nervous or afraid
- Like your mind is racing away and you cannot stop
- Unable to enjoy yourself
- Depressed
- Uninterested in life
- Lost your sense of humour
- A sense of dread
- Worried or tense
- Neglected or alone
Physical Problems
- Diffculty breathing
- Panic attacks
- Blurred eyesight or sore eyes
- Sleep problems
- Fatigue
- Muscle aches and headaches
- Chest pains and high blood pressure
- Indigestion or heartburn
If you feel stressed, it might make you:
- Constipation or diarrhoea
- Feeling sick, dizzy or fainting
- Sudden weight gain or weight loss
- Developing rashes or itchy skin
- Sweating
- Changes to your period or menstrual cycle
- Unable to remember things
- Existing physical health problems getting worse
- Find it hard to make decisions
- Unable to concentrate
- Constantly worry or have feelings of dread
- Short tempered
- Bite your finger nails
- Pick at or scratch your skin
- Grind your teeth or clench your jaw
- Experience sexual problems, such as losing interest in sex or being unable to enjoy sex
We may feel stressed due to many factors, and sometime we do not realise or understand what they are, let alone explain it to someone else.
You may experience stress if you:
- Feel under lots of pressure
- Face big changes in your life
- Are worried about something
- Don't have much or any control over a situation
- Have responsibilities that you find overwhelming
- Don't have enough work, activities or change in your life
- Experience discrimination, hate or abuse
- Are going through a period of uncertainty
- Eat too much, too little or the wrong foods
- Smoke, use recreational drugs or alcohol more than usual
- Restless, like you can't sit still
- Cry or feel tearful
- Spend or shop too much
- Change in your exercise patterns
- Withdraw from people around you
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Why do certain things make me feel stressed?
How stressed you feel in different situations may depend on factors like:
- How comfortable you feel in certain types of situation
- What else you are going through at the time
- Your past experiences, and how these affect the way you feel about yourself
- The resources you have available to you, such as time and money
- The amount of support you have from other people
Some situations that don't bother you at all might cause someone else a lot of stress. This is because we are all influenced by different experiences. We also have different levels of support and ways of coping.
Certain events might also make you feel stressed sometimes, but not every time.
For example, if you go shopping for food with enough time and money, you may not feel stressed. But you might feel stressed if you have lots of other things to do, have a tight budget, or need to buy food for a big event.
“I get stressed when things get out of perspective – too much work, thinking too far ahead.”
What kind of situations can cause stress?
Many things can cause stress in different areas of our lives. These may include:
Personal
- Illness or injury
- Pregnancy and becoming a parent
- Infertility and problems having children
- Bereavement
- Experiencing abuse
- Experiencing crime and the justice system, such as being arrested, going to court or being a witness
- Organising a complicated event, like a holiday
- Everyday tasks, such as household chores or taking transport
Friends and family
- Getting married or civil partnered
- Going through a break-up or getting divorced
- Difficult relationships with parents, siblings, friends or children
- Being a carer
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How to deal with anxiety?
Anxiety is a term to describe how we feel when we are under stress, worried, tense or afraid about situtions and events that are, or we think may be about to happen.
The good news is people like you are able to stop anxiety by learning how they process things internally, and making changes to them. Hypnotherapy, NLP & CBT are all powerful tools to make these changes.
Remember, Its common to feel anxious during life, especially when a big life changing event, its not good to stay in that state of mind. It makes us aware we need to pay attention to something.
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How to stop Smoking with Ease
Many people are now realising that to stop smoking is something they can do to improve their lives, save money, get healthier and much more.
Hypnotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), are all highly effective in helping people to stop smoking quickly and easilly.
Smoking is a method people use to change their mental state, how they feel and sometimes to just fit in.
By changing the thoughts and beliefs associated to smoking, and designing a new strategy, you can stop smoking quickly and with ease.
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'The Fast Phobia Cure'
There is no need to be afraid anymore. I also use the latest in Human Design to replace the old with a new empowering strategy and behaviour.
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When I speak of Past Trauma, i refer to the Psychological and emotional damage that is left behind from an extremely stressful event, which can destroy your sense of security, leaving you with a sense of disconnection, helplessness, and confusion. When I say Getting Past Trauma, I mean using your own brain to make the changes internally needed, using NLP, CBT, & EMDR.
Psychological trauma can leave you finding life difficult, revisiting the past resulting in feelings and anxiety that won’t go away.
It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. There are tried and tested methods of helping with ptsd.
The good news is by the use of EMDR, NLP, and CBT, your responses can be easily changed into something more supportive.
Your responses are NORMAL reactions to ABNORMAL events, they can be as unique as you are.
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The pandemic has forced most of the population to being restricted to homes, not knowing how the future will pan out, this gives an ideal opportunity for online therapy sessions to fill the gap.
From this situation we are already becoming aware of an increase of mental health issues.
Most UK adults and many children now have mobile telephones, over 60% have access to tablets, and PC's. It makes sense then to use technology to fill the gap left by not having the facilities to provide face to face sessions, and move Online to help.
